Sexual Feelings

Big changes that happen with your feelings is that you will probably start to fancy people and find that you think about them a lot. You might find them sexy and attractive and that you want to spend lots of time with them. You might even feel jealous when they spend time with anyone else.

Talk about your feelings if you can, with someone you like and trust.

Sometimes when boys go through puberty it might be that they are attracted to girls or sometimes to boys or even both. This is quite normal and lots of people going through puberty experience this.

As time goes on you'll find it becomes clearer whether you're more attracted to girls or boys or both. Whoever you're interested in it can be helpful to talk about your feelings with someone you really trust.

If it feels ok, ask an adult that you really trust how they found it going through these changes when they were your age.

Whatever you're feeling you're certainly not the only one. Here's what a lot of boys your age are worried about when they talk to Child Line

  • They are worried about who they are attracted to
  • They are worried about the changes happening to their bodies like erections happening a lot, growing hair and wet dreams
  • They are worried about how their bodies and penises look compared to other bodies that they might see, for example in the showers
  • Some boys feel lonely even if they have a crowd of friends they hang out with.

So it's good to talk about your feelings. If you don't feel you can talk to anyone else then you could phone Child Line. It's completely confidential and the number won't show up on any phone bills.