Sex
People have sex for all sorts of reasons, the most obvious being that you are horny, turned on, hot, revved up (or whatever words you use) ...
"Casual sex is a shallow, meaningless experience ... but as shallow, meaningless experiences go, it's one of the best."
Woody Allen
A lot of people, particularly when they have just come out as gay do have a lot of sex simply because they realise that they can, and it feels good for them. This enthusiasm can last for weeks to years, or even the rest of your life!
Another obvious reason that guys have sex is to expres the love they feel for their partner, strengthening the emotional bond between them.
Less obvious but still true, you might have sex to boost your ego - if someone fancies you then you can feel better about yourself. It can be great when it works but when it doesn't, you can end up feeling worse than when you started.
Sometimes people have sex because they want affection but put up with the sex part because they can't ask for affection - just the kissing and hugging part.
It isn't unknown for people to have sex with guys just to make friends, not realising that you can make friends without sex. A network of friends is particularly helpful if you are a gay man. Because we live in a society with few gay role models, it's useful to talk to friends to see what they are doing, and how their sex and/or love lives are progressing.
Relationships and Love
Gay men are like everyone else, and many people want the prince, the castle and all the trimmings (although he may actually be a carpet fitter in Crosshill or a doctor from Dumbarton). It may seem stupid to write down the obvious but the love gay men feel is the same emotion that the rest of the population feel, and that we deserve the same happiness in a relationship as everyone else. Gay relationships, like straight ones, need to be worked at, and problems talked through, but benefits can be enormous.
If you are having problems in your relationship and are finding it difficult to resolve, it may be useful to talk it through with someone at Switchboard. Relate (formerly marriage guidance) also helps gay couples with problems in their relationship.
So there you have it. Some of the options, so what are you going to do? You can date and smooch, admire from afar, have wild sex with everyone you fancy, fall madly and passionately in love or indeed indulge in an orgy of going to the pub for karaoke and a pint. It's your life, it's your sexuality - enjoy!