Sex is one of the most powerful and pleasurable human experiences. We as gay men choose to celebrate our sexuality both in relationships and through casual encounters. Being happy about being gay and keeping well informed about safer sex helps us to relax and enjoy a fulfilled sex life. A healthy sex life is good for you so think positively about gay sex, practice safer sex and be aware of those situations in which you might take risks.
Positive attitude
Get rid of any guilty feelings you might ever have had about having sex with men. Allow yourself to be taken over by the pleasure of getting down to it with another man - that's what being gay is about.
- Sleep with the men you choose, don't be pushed into anything
- Communicate physically or verbally but let him know what excites you
- Don't you just love being gay!
- Take control and have the sex you know you deserve
- Enjoy the sensations of sex, be physical
- So what if he's gorgeous or huge, don't let him persuade you to fuck without condoms
- If you are relaxed and confident it will rub off on him
- Coming too soon or too late needn't be the end of the world, or the session.
Safer Sex
Basically safer sex is using condoms for fucking. Strong condoms used with water based lubricants such as KY will protect against the transmission of HIV, as well as a huge number of other infections. Sucking cocks is not unsafe, most of us do it regularly. The reason that nobody will say that it is absolutely 100% safe is because of the presence of HIV in cum and pre-cum which, theoretically, could be passed on through sores in the mouth or bleeding gums. If you have a healthy mouth, get down on it!
- Use a strong condom and water based lubricant for fucking (never use vaseline or other oily lubricants which will rot your rubber)
- Safer sex will protect against infection of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases
- It's no bother and it saves lives
- Insist on safer sex or tell him where to get off
- You won't get a shitty dick if you use condoms.
Risky Business
We may take risks for kicks or because we donÕt know any better, because we get carried away with the passion of the moment, or because we think we are safe from HIV within our relationships. It is useful to be frank about why we have unprotected sex so that it can best be avoided in future. Take steps to restart and maintain safer sex practices:
- Have condoms available always and everywhere
- Monogamy will not keep you safe if you fuck without condoms
- Don't use drink or drugs as an excuse not to bother
- If you want to feel you're taking risks, then do it outdoors
- Ditch your lover if he won't practice safer sex
- Don't assume anyone to be HIV negative
- You might enjoy raw fucking but HIV is too high a price to pay.
There are risks of infection associated with rimming, sucking and fucking, but even body rubbing could result in crabs, scabies, genital warts and more. So rationalise the risks and concentrate on the enjoyment of having great sex. Look after your sexual health, and consider visiting the Steve Retson Project for regular check-ups. Prevention is better than cure. See the Clinic section for more information on infections.